People are funny…

As I go through life, I come across people who make you question how some people survive. Especially in the dating world.

Like the guy who texts me at 7:52 for the address of Intermezzo where we are supposed to meet at 8:00, which I send to him at 7:54. At 8:20, I send him a text saying, “I thought you said 8:00?” And nothing… Big fat whopping nothing. Until 9:03, I get a test saying, “I’m here, where are you?” Really? Even the bartender wanted to smack him. Then he suggested we meet somewhere close to where I live, which was only 3 blocks from Intermezzo. Then he suggested he bring a bottle of wine to my house as a peace offering. Right! Screw him. I’m hot, I’m fun, I’m successful – and I don’t need to wait around for men that obviously think their time is more valuable than mine. He may be a doctor and he may be decent looking, but I respect myself way too much to tolerate crap like that. Did he seriously not know he was running late at 7:52 that he couldn’t have added, “BTW, running late, sorry.” Would have made all the difference in the world and that only took me 6 seconds to type!

And then there is the other guy that never plans in advance. I’ll get a text at 7:00 with something like, “What r doing?” Sadly, this guy is really hot – my kind of hot, which is more attitude – and gets my panties wet just from a seriously stupid text like that and I have a hard time resisting him. He says the only way things will change is if I move in with him. What? Where the hell did that come from? I’ve only known the guy a couple months and there are so many serious deal breakers. The image he portrayed in the beginning was a guy that cooks super healthy (he is a private chef for some big hitters), eats healthy, works out regularly and is very spiritual. Add on the fact that I just want to rip his clothes off and bury myself in his scent every time I am near him. Come to find out, he smokes, doesn’t believe in working out anymore and eats fried pork rinds and cashews for dinner. He also tells me how to market my business, even though he has never done it in his life and I’m very successful with what I do. Hmm. Too bad he kicks my skirt up so high. Don’t want to hurt him, so I won’t be able to play with him as much as I’d like.

So that brings up another question. I know he is not Mr. Right, but he a great Mr. Occasional. Is that fair to him? He says things like he is getting attached, and I’ve been honest with him about the deal breakers. Is it fair for me to keep having crazy, nasty, leaves me wanting to do it all over again, really hot sex with him or should I set him aside out of concern for his feelings?

Then there is the really hot, super sexy 32 year old incredibly intelligent and well spoken bartender, who almost had me pouncing on him, but I guess I rejected him one too many times. He liked it. It intrigued him. I wonder if he has any idea just how close he was. I would think after spending a couple hours talking with me, to give up all of a sudden. Hmm. He didn’t have his phone and I wasn’t going to give him my number anyway. He is too young. He offered me his, but for what purpose. I don’t believe in calling men. They need to be the hunter, in my opinion, in order to value something. And if he really wants to find me, I’m all over the internet. A quick google with minimal information. Hell, my first name and Santa Barbara will find about 8 pages of stuff! It’s a small town, our paths will cross again. I wonder if I’ll remember him!?!

My GF debated with me on whether he was too young. Her theory is take your age, divide it by 2 and add 8. That would be the minimum age. For me that would be 32. But it still seems too young. I wouldn’t mind have a 32 year old in the sack on a regular basis, but what more could he add?

And that was something else I’ve been having conversations about. I have a great life. I love life! I work hard in a career I adore. (I’m in the office now.) I make a good income so I can do what I want. I have lots of friends, with a handful of close ones. I get out and about regularly and try new restaurants. I travel a little and am making more of an effort to do it more. So, if I am going to date someone and open up my life and my schedule to fit them in – I know, that sounds really bad, but is not intended that way – they need to be able to add to my net-net. I don’t mean that financially. I want to know how they can make my life even better. Because if they can’t, why bother? I don’t need any energy sucking vampires dragging me down!

I am a big believer that life is what YOU make it. First, you have to allow yourself to have a great life. It’s all about the energy you put into it and the energy you take out of it. I do a lot of both! And I make sure it’s all great energy. This morning I walked from my house downtown – kind of mid-downtown – to Backyard Bowls, then over to SB Running Company down on Anacapa close to the beach for new running shoes, then I ran via the beach to my office on Coast Village Rd and Olive Mill. About 5 miles. What an amazing morning! I will get a few hours of work done, then I’ll run home. And I have two parties to go to tonight. It’s perfect weather today. How much better could life really get?

And one final plug: If you haven’t been to the new restaurant that opened, Maggie‘s, where State and A used to be, you need to go. It’s beautiful, elegant and fun. I’ve never had a better burger in my life. They just had their chef start so they are working out the kinks, but well worth a visit. Not inexpensive, but a great experience!