Is it wrong for a woman to have more than one lover?

Funny how life is constantly changing – sometimes for the worse, but more often for the better. I can go six months without a decent date, then all of a sudden have a plethora of men vying for my attention. I wonder why that is. I’m not any different that I can see. My weight is about the same and at a comfortable, feel-good place. My energy level is about the same. My attitude about me and about life is almost always positive. So I question, are the planets aligned in just the right way? Is Mercury in retrograde? (Not that I really understand what that means, but it sounds good and I know there is something to it because all kinds of craziness kicks up!)

The theme currently seems to be men from my past. Not really boyfriends from the past, just men I’ve known for several years that are all of a sudden inviting me out to dinner and making a move. Some welcome moves, some, mmm, not so much. Fortunately, I am really good at handling difficult situations without too much harm.

I do get confused by the behavior of men. For instance, what is up with the man asking me where I want to go for dinner? Well, I’d like to go to the San Ysidro Ranch, if you must know, but that’s not what they have in mind, I’m sure! Wouldn’t it be better to ask if there is a particular type of food I have a hankering for? That way I can say Italian or Indian, and they can pick a place that fits their budget.

Another good one is all the texting. Yes, you misunderstood. No, you didn’t piss me off. I just don’t think getting a text late at night to see if I want to grab a cocktail qualifies for dating. That’s a booty call and it’s not my style. If you want to see me, can’t you be a little old fashioned and dial my number, have a conversation with me and invite me out for a day or two later? And if you want a weekend date, what happened to calling on Monday or Tuesday? That way I have time to anticipate and get excited and think about what to wear and go shopping if necessary. That is so much more fun! And you can be sure my mood, appearance and energy level will show it!

Or here is another one. We are scheduled to get together at 6:30. At 6:12, after I have arranged my schedule accordingly and and putting the final touches on being beautiful, I get a text asking if we can “push it back an hour.” Now what am I going to do for the next hour? (I’m blogging!) I never responded to the text, just out of curiousity to see what he would do. He never called, never texted again. He doesn’t even know if I got the text. It’s right on that verge of rude and kind of took the tingle out of the attitude. That’s too bad. But he is fun to look at, so that helps!

So I have all of these adorable men paying attention and I ask: Is it ok for a woman to have more than one lover? I have no commitment to any of the men I am dating. They haven’t asked for it and they definitely haven’t earned it and I’m not sure I would be interested anyway. But I do love sex and since I’m not getting any younger and I am using protection, is there anything wrong with testing the waters in a few tide pools? I can only think that is each indivifual’s decision. I don’t know if I could actually do that, but it makes for an excellent fantasy. Especially when I fantasize about having more than one there at the same time. Simply delicious!